The car parked, up the hill I went in the rain, again. The code number entered, sign in and then off in search of my mother. Nearly a year now since dementia and failing health brought her to this nursing home, better than most, but still not home. A quick look round the living room at the men and women snoozing in chairs. No mum there dwarfed by the overstuffed armchair. So tiny and frail she is these days – I always feel I could scoop her in my arms and hardly strain to do it.
Not there I check with one of the busy staff walking by who points me towards the dining room. There sits my mum at a table, completely still, eyes closed holding one of the cold cut pieces of toast in her hand. She looks like a spell has been cast upon her, a character in a children’s story, turned to stone. Completely still, caught mid motion. I touch her arm gently and she wakes, smiles in recognition and says hello. The relief of being recognised. I smile back and quietly prompt her back to her breakfast. She eats slowly. I talk. She understands and responds sometimes. Often not.
Later back in the room with the overstuffed chairs and sofas, the heat and the snoozers, I hold her hand as she snoozes too. My mum.
Beautiful! It’s almost poetry… Full of love!
Thank you so much!
“. . .the relief of being recognized.” That’s such a strong phrase. The second time I read your post, I realized I wasn’t clear on who was relieved–was it you or your Mum? Either way, I love that concept. Thank you.
Thank you Pat for reading my blog and making time to comment. I did mean my relief…but who knows perhaps that feeling was shared by my mum too. That’s been interesting to muse on. So thank YOU !
Thanks for following me on Cold, Susi.
My pleasure…
A perfect invite into your world, your life & your experience. Poetic…
Grace with you & your mum through this season of time. ~Storm
Thank you for your kind comments. Much appreciated.